Over the years of talking with and listening to hundreds of adoptive parents, I’ve noticed that most parenting styles fall into two basic categories: TRADITIONAL PARENTING: Parenting focused on trying to gain control over challenging behaviors; parents often feel like Continue reading Traditional, or Trauma-Informed?
WHAT KIDS WITH TRAUMA NEED IN SCHOOL: A heartfelt letter to the teachers, counselors, principals, and other educators working with my child with Complex Developmental Trauma By Sandi Lerman ______________________________________ Dear educators, Thank you so much for teaching my child. Continue reading What Kids with Trauma Need in School
So much of the advice that I see about how to parent adopted kids deals with coming to terms with their trauma, grief, and brokenness. While I believe that this is an important place to start, I don’t think we should Continue reading Strong and in Control
While my adopted son is now 14, my first up-close and personal experience with a traumatized teen was in my classroom. A few years ago, I had an adopted 15-year-old in my English as a Second Language (ESL) class. I’ll call Continue reading Teens and Trauma
Sometimes it can be so easy for me to forget how far we have come and just happily skip along my merry way, thinking that everything is “normal” now and we are never going back to the scary early days of this Continue reading The root of all defiant, stubborn behavior
This is a story about a setback that my son and I went through a few days ago. I originally posted it in a parenting group on Facebook, but I decided to share it again here because it seemed to Continue reading The Setback