Over the years of talking with and listening to hundreds of adoptive parents, I’ve noticed that most parenting styles fall into two basic categories: TRADITIONAL PARENTING: Parenting focused on trying to gain control over challenging behaviors; parents often feel like Continue reading Traditional, or Trauma-Informed?
WHAT KIDS WITH TRAUMA NEED IN SCHOOL: A heartfelt letter to the teachers, counselors, principals, and other educators working with my child with Complex Developmental Trauma By Sandi Lerman ______________________________________ Dear educators, Thank you so much for teaching my child. Continue reading What Kids with Trauma Need in School
For many years, teachers and parents have been concerned about self-esteem and have looked at ways to increase children’s feelings of their own abilities, potential, and worth as human beings. However, focusing on self-esteem doesn’t always help in the long Continue reading What is “self compassion” and why is it essential?
This is a post that I’ve been thinking about for the past several weeks… I wasn’t sure if the timing was right or not, but I’ve decided that there’s no better time than the present, so here we go… This Continue reading It’s time to tell you this…
One of the parents in my online support group (Families in FLIGHT) recently asked this very important question about consequences: I need help with the concept of consequences. My husband feels as though our kids have no consequences for their Continue reading Why consequences backfire… and what to do instead
As a parent coach for adoptive moms, I always recommend that families implement what I call “The Four Essential Elements for Transforming Trauma”. These are like the four legs of a table – if any one of them is Continue reading Three reasons why adoptive moms don’t get enough self care, and what to do about it
My adoption journey has had a common theme from the beginning to now… from the time I decided to become a mom, to the four years of paperwork and international bureaucracy that kept me from bringing my child home, to Continue reading Have faith… and wait.
It seems I’m on an roll this week with emails. Just composed another missive to a very old-school (read: uncooperative) teacher who just doesn’t get it AT ALL. We finally had a big ol’ IEP meeting and added individualized language Continue reading Letter to School Re: Homework
It has been nearly a year since the last time I posted on the blog, but I’m back. I am Warrior Mama, hear me roar! 😉 I just wrote a passionate email to all the teachers and other staff working Continue reading Warrior Mama Rant
I’ve been hanging out it groups for Adoptive Parents for a few years now, and I have learned so much from other Warrior Mamas and Papas along this journey to hearing my son’s heart. It has been a long, slow Continue reading For the weary Warrior Mama